Sugar Baby, Cam Girl Derived Blackmail
Some “fun” can lead to incredible consequences. A man participating in a sugar daddy/ “Seeking Arrangements ” relationship, Cam Girl behavior, or on video masturbation or sex chat with some “random” woman met online, can have consequences for him the severity of which does not occur to him until it is too late.
The man in a sugar relationship can inadvertently document the entire affair. A functional, in a relationship man, in a Sugar relationship, can easily create compromising images, video, texts, bank/credit card statements, hotel records, documenting a marriage and or career ending course of conduct, by the hands of a woman he somehow let himself ignore had the of job of extracting money from him.
The man in a CamGirl relationship can through the camming behavior provide his “girl’ with many videos of him masturbating. A man interacting with a ‘random” woman he met on social media can provide her with all he needs to be levered beyond his wildest imagination.
Generally men engaging in these behaviors have partner, a jobs or business, relatives whom they want to be seen in a good light by, and often social standing, and these sexual side behaviors are seen by him to be in a “container”, that the man only thinks will actually contain them. Our mental containers do not actually hold anything back from escaping into the body of our life, and creating massive destruction.
The men doing these behaviors, in their calculations, thought the up front and ongoing financial costs were the only costs. But like some loans, the woman he is paying woman thinks, and may be correct, that she can get a “balloon payment” at the end the relationship. This is done by her under the threat of pay, or she sends the proof to not just his wife, but all Facebook friends, his siblings, his business partners, or whomever has an email or social media account with a connection to him.
Sites like Spokeo, or Truthfinder, will tell these women your familial connections, their cell phone numbers, and their address’s. The woman in this story knowing your Facebook profile makes “blowing up” your life that much more instantaneous.
This compromising material is collected when the sugar baby sends sexualized pictures or videos, and innocuously asks for similar pictures or videos in return. As the relationship progresses, the sugar baby learns where the sugar daddy works, what he owns, his means, his wife’s name, whether he has kids, where he lives, his social standing, and more.
Meanwhile, the sugar baby of CamGirl blackmailer is saving all this information and digital material up, so she can use it if or when her sugar daddy decides to move on from her. When he does try and end things, no matter the reason, the extortion starts. She threatens to share her information with the betrayed wife, or to go public, or to otherwise ruin his life unless he buys her silence.
Now the “fun” has turned into an acute crisis. I have had persons call me from this position, and it is a tragic, sad, and entirely preventable. f you are engaging in these behaviors, I strongly suggest you learn how to stop this activity before you create consequences you may find unmanageable, give me a call as I would love to help you prevent this unmanageable outcome.
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James Foley LCSW-R