Serial Affairs, and Fake “Affairs”

Serial Affairs, and Fake “Affairs”

Serial Affairs, and Fake “Affairs”
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Over 23 Years

Serial Affairs, and Fake “Affairs” Treatment

I have helped clients discontinue both serial affairs, as well as the newer and more complicated issue of pseudo or “fake” affairs. I will be honest, persons suffering from being under the illusion that they are having an affair, in reality with a fake, and not who they say they are person, they met online, have some of the most persistent delusions, delusions that are incredibly resistant to any and all corrective information. It is not that I think I am less skilled at helping persons having “a fake affair”, with a fake account, its that I have not seen any clinician or non clinician, find an easy way to correct these illusions in the client.

These days, cheating is as close as a smartphone, this makes it both easier for affair addicts to cheat, and more difficult for affair addicts to stop. Webcam, email, chat room infidelity have waned a bit, but there are people still doing this. Social Media, chats, paid “lonely moms near you” websites, attractive “persons” met online but who are not who they say they are, can all blur the line between cheating, being scammed, and pornography addiction. In person, old fashioned affairs still go on, and they hurt the addicts partner, and need little explanation here as to how and why. Those people need help, but obviously that behavior is not a new phenomena.

What is the latest and complicated “affair” is, the peron who thinks they are having “an affair”, but they seem to be communicating with some type of con artist playing off the addicts weakness’, and he scammer not in it for the emotions, or sex, but in it for financial gain. The addicts resistance to the facts, to feedback, and help, that this is in reality a scam, can be beyond anyone’s expectations. This specific disorder has more resistance than you would imagine. This writer has seen persons of both genders ignore all reality to preserve the idea this person is “real”. This writer has seen persons of both genders create poverty for themselves in an effort to keep this “person” in their life.

If these behaviors are online, and with some of these, is it a real person, or is it a scam artist that pretends to be a real person, the partner cheated on experiences at least three losses.1: The fact of being cheated on.2: The loss of time and attention this addiction takes from their relationship with this addict 3: The sinking feeling in the non addict that they “have to” look out for the addict, as that addict is being scammed by a pretend, “attractive”, “available”, person, and the addict thinks this is all real, and the addict giving time, attention, and often money, to a online fraud and needs the help of the non addict partner, yet another task that non addict has to take on. One thing that has not changed from the birth of these online behaviors until now, is the amount of time put into these behaviors. It is an absolute constant in my decades of this work. All this time put into the addiction comes from somewhere. The time put into this behavior is deducted from real relationships, family life, work tasks, and other real work obligations and enjoyments.


I am here to help you. Don’t hesitate to give me a call. No judgment and I make sure that everything remains private.


I work with all types of schedules to ensure you get the help you need.


During the first appointment, I will go over exactly what you are struggling with and create a lifelong plan to give you the life you deserve.

Progress you can see

You will be surprised by the progress you can make with my counseling. Years of experience and dedication to helping you is our moto.

Our Qualifications

Certified Sex Offender Treatment Specialist Ohio University

Certified Juvenile Sexual Offender Counselor University of Louisville

Full Clinical Member (National) Association for the Treatment of Sexual Abusers

Full Clinical Member NY Association for the Treatment of Sexual Abusers

Full Clinical Member NJ Association for the Treatment of Sexual Abusers

Master’s Degree, Clinical Social Work, Fordham University

Licensed Psychotherapist NY Lic # R059367-1

Licensed Psychotherapist CT Lic # 10800

Licensed Psychotherapist NJ Lic # 44SC05908100