60 E 42nd St, New York, NY 10165

Seeking Arrangements/Sugar Baby/Sugar Daddy

Although two sober and well adults can enter into whatever financial and sexual agreements they wish, in practice, Sugar Daddy behavior is a financially, as well as emotionally ,dangerous choice.

The sex and money involved in sugaring can make it easy to forget there just a lonely man, and an ambitious young woman.

These deals are often seen by the man as a quick, easy, and simple solution, although it can turn out to be far more complicated and costly than expected.

One way things can get more complicated is many men can develop a savior complex that they are helping this woman’s future, when he is not.

Some men involved in these activities feel they were previously left out of the romantic / sexual world in an earlier part of their life. They might have related insecurities, resentments, or longings about the past that fuel this choice.

Sugaring may be the very emotionally and intellectually confusing practice it is, because it blurs romantic, social, sexual, and financial boundaries.

Professional Sexual Misconduct

It is often the sugar daddy who is ignoring all the emotions, and focusing on the physical affection, and not seeing his going further down a rabbit hole of emotional attachment.

There may be a $8,000 a month fee, but many babies push for shopping, vacations, rent bills, and schooling. I have seen men burn through their entire retirement account, thinking some Sugar Baby is their “friend”, only to be broke, lonely, feeling foolish and heartbroken.

These men will be speaking as if they are spending their children’s inheritance, when in fact it will be they will have the financial rude awakening, when the money for this behavior runs out long before their actual life does. They often massive shame when the reality hits.

It is not easy to help these men exit these arrangements, as often there is a part of them that does want to exit but skill in these matters, a non-judgemental approach towards this arrangement, and asking for and understanding of their emotional needs being met, can go a long way to helping them evaluate as to what course of action is in their longer term well being.


I am here to help you. Don’t hesitate to give me a call. No judgment and I make sure that everything remains private.


I work with all types of schedules to ensure you get the help you need.


During the first appointment, I will go over exactly what you are struggling with and create a lifelong plan to give you the life you deserve.

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You will be surprised by the progress you can make with my counseling. Years of experience and dedication to helping you is our moto.

My Qualifications

Certified Sex Offender Treatment Specialist Ohio University

Certified Juvenile Sexual Offender Counselor University of Louisville

Full Clinical Member (National) Association for the Treatment of Sexual Abusers

Full Clinical Member NY Association for the Treatment of Sexual Abusers

Full Clinical Member NJ Association for the Treatment of Sexual Abusers

Master’s Degree, Clinical Social Work, Fordham University

Licensed Psychotherapist NY Lic # R059367-1

Licensed Psychotherapist CT Lic # 10800

Licensed Psychotherapist NJ Lic # 44SC05908100

Licensed Psychotherapist CA Lic # 101416

Licensed Psychotherapist Fl Lic #SW19525

Licensed Psychotherapist TX Lic #107691

Licensed Psychotherapist OH Lic #I.2203614

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James Foley LCSW-R