Discovering your partner’s offensive or bizarre sexual behavior can be a painful experience, the non addict needs to learn what recovery would look like in this case, how to, or not to, talk to the family about this issue, get an education about this addiction and or disorder, sit for full disclosure by the addict, understand any new family dynamics this creates, get past any denial that is partially her creation, validation of feelings, hope for a better tomorrow than she imagined, and have trust re-established with her partner.

I offer this therapy for the non-offending, non-“addict” partner, and in my experience, at least some of this is necessary in every case. One way I help the non addict partner, is when the addict is able to own their behaviors, admit their distorted feelings, and sees their self centered thoughts on these matters for what they are, this can take some some or all of the misplaced responsibility that has been put on the non addict.